It’s something people like to tell you all the time when you are going through anything. There has come a time where it feels like this saying is overused.
I’d like to bring the importance of this back, “You are never alone.”
To shed some light on this, in Americans 18 or older, 20.9 million suffer from mood disorders (bipolar), 40 million suffer from an anxiety disorder, and 2.2 million suffer from OCD. This is only 18 or older. The numbers become much larger with teens. Anxiety, being the number one mental health diagnosis in college students.
With this being said it is still easy to feel alone. Loneliness can be harvested into a monster thanks to our mental health.
Have you ever thought:
I ruin everybody else’s life.
I can’t call anyone because I will be bothering them.
Nobody wants to hear from me.
I make bad decisions, I just shouldn’t make anymore.
I don’t know how to act in social situations.
I am awkward.
I have nothing to offer.
I mess up everything.
I can’t do anything right.
I can’t trust anyone.
I hurt people.
Everyone hurts me.
I am worthless.
I am unlovable.
Nobody wants me there.
Everybody leaves me.
Does any of this ring a bell?
This is loneliness speaking for you. When we are alone, sad and anxious these small thoughts can take on a big life of their own. It’s important to push past this. If we continue down the rabbit hole we will only push ourselves further into our sadness and solidifying our commitment to even more isolation. It’s important to find anyone and just talk to them. It doesn’t have to be about your attack it could be anything at random. It could be from your favorite show or book. Anything to distract you from yourself. This is where you need to be your own hero.
There is only so much that you can do when you are by yourself. Imagination is wild and never good when the rational parts of our brains are turned off. Be brave, have courage and push past everything telling you no and if you need help with that look to someone to give you a hand. When you talk to someone who goes through the same thing as you, it makes circumstances a little better. That is why it is so important when you are told, “You are never alone.”
No, it’s not coming from someone who doesn’t understand because they don’t have a mental health issue. It’s something sacred between other fighters who wake up every day and battle. I can’t tell you how many times I have scrolled through Tumblr or Twitter and seen someone post those four words. It makes a difference and I can release a breath of fresh air. It’s important to know from the moment you wake up, til the moment you drift off to sleep, there is always going to be a safety net for you. You are a part of a special group. When you have bad days, we will be there and when you have good days, we will cheer you on because you are never alone.